I couldn’t wait to start maternity leave, nine months off work to relax and bond with my beautiful new baby. We would be off over Summer so would go for leisurely walks through the park, once we got to the park I would feed my baby with a beautiful, home made lunch, we would have a bit of fun and then take another leisurely stroll home. I would attend mother & baby groups and make loads of new friends, providing a really good support network. We would both be happy and in a fantastic routine. The reality was somewhat different. I now look at the above thoughts and laugh at myself.
In reality you will commit to far too much to have any relaxing days. You may get to walk through the park but it will be a rushed, sweaty walk that you are taking just because you have somewhere to be, and of course, you’re late.
You will join baby groups, maybe even a slimming class for yourself, you will be expected to take the baby into work and to see friends/relatives. Those days you dreamt of in which you would relax on the sofa cuddling up with your baby watching Disney films don’t happen. How are you supposed to fit lazy days in now that you have committed to all of these groups and people? It doesn’t matter anyway, your baby doesn’t even like cwtches and finds watching TV incredibly boring.
You will always be late, in the early days it will usually be because your baby has a poo-nami just before you leave. Cue a bath (or at least a full body wash using wet wipes depending on just how late you are) and complete outfit change. In the later days it may be because your baby has had a lie in and you daren’t wake them because if you do all hell will break loose. It could be because baby would rather sit in their highchair and shake their head instead of eating their breakfast because shaking their head is hilarious and breakfast isn’t. You will find yourself scooping their lovingly prepared breakfast into a plastic bowl with a lid and taking it with you.
Don’t get me wrong, I did manage to get some things done. I completed an on-line photography diploma and managed to spend a little more time and effort on my blog. Aria slept a lot which meant that I could do these things sometimes. I even made most of my own purees following the Annabel Karmel plan. Nowadays she sleeps a lot less so generally has fish fingers.