My Non-Negotiables List

My Non-Negotiables List

The non-negotiables list, originating from Kate at Pouting in Heels, has made quite a storm in the blogging world. Kate wrote the post urging everyone to write their own list of non-negotiables, a list of things that you will do for you and will not compromise on. Since Kate’s initial post the non-negotiables has now turned into a tag post, with bloggers nominating other bloggers to write their own list, the lovely Lucy of Hello Beautiful Bear recently tagged me to join in.

blog tag post my non-negotiables list

I will stop caring about what others think of me I’m quite an anxious and paranoid person. This gets in my way and often prevents me doing things that I want to. I worry too much about what others think and I really need to stop giving a damn. In reality everyone is too absorbed in their own lives and their mobile phones to even be watching what I’m doing so I really do need to get over this.

I will have regular hair cuts I’ve never been very good at keeping up with hair cuts. Sometimes leaving it over a year before getting it cut and then going crazy and having a huge amount cut off at once. Now that I have shorter hair I really do need to look after it more. It is such a mess at the moment with long bits growing out over my ears and sticking up everywhere. I look scruffy and this doesn’t help with confidence. I will book an appointment this week and keep going regularly afterwards.

I will work on building up my confidence I’m not a very confident person, which goes hand in hand with being anxious and paranoid. I will start to focus on the positives in my life and everything that I have achieved to help me become a more confident person.

I will relax more I’ve been getting very stressed lately as a result of trying to fit too much in. I’m going to start saying no more so that I can relax more and enjoy guilt free baths and Netflix binges.

I will swear less Lucy mentioned swearing in her list and I’m the same. I’m not one of these people whose every other word is a swearer but I do occasionally swear, especially when I’m stressed/drop something/walk into something (which is actually quite often as I’m so clumsy). Aria is now at the age where she is picking up on what we are saying and attempting to repeat things. I do not want a one year old who says the F word! I will stop.

What are your non-negotiables? Please leave a comment to let me know! 

I tag Sally, Jo, Kay, Jess, Karen and Joanna.


  1. 3rd April 2016 / 8:11 pm

    I'd not heard of this concept before but I love it! Your list is excellent, becoming more confident is definitely on my non-negiotable list too xx

    • 5th April 2016 / 8:32 pm

      It's a fab idea, I just need to be strong and stick to it!

  2. 3rd April 2016 / 8:35 pm

    Yay! Love your list and agree with all of them! I am trying to fit so much in as well and I don't have any 'me' time and I'm always so tired. I think it's starting to make me less than I could be for Lily so I'm trying to take some time out although it's not working so well.
    I hope you find the secret to confidence (if you do, please share!) and yes, you definitely shouldn't care about what other people think all of the time although I am exactly the same my lovely! X

    • 5th April 2016 / 8:33 pm

      Thanks Lucy 🙂
      Me time is so difficult! I agree it does affect how we are with the kids, when I'm shattered or feeling down I just can't be-bothered which isn't how I want to parent!

  3. 3rd April 2016 / 9:04 pm

    I'm so with you on pretty much all of these! I hate going to get my hair cut so I just leave it and leave it – it's hard to believe that a few years ago I'd completely change my style every month or so. I think learning to say no will have to go my list too, it's something I really struggle with. x

    Thanks so much for tagging me too 😀

    • 5th April 2016 / 8:34 pm

      I've finally booked an appointment for Friday, I think I may book my next appointment while I'm there to force the issue!
      No problem, I look forward to seeing your post 🙂

  4. 14th April 2016 / 2:08 pm

    I definitely need to do a list like this. I also definitely need to get regular hair cuts.

    • 18th April 2016 / 2:47 pm

      I've had my haircut since writing this, must keep it up!

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