Baby Number Two – Finding Out, Announcements & Symptoms

I have a confession to make. I completely forgot to announce my pregnancy on my blog. I announced it on YouTube and plastered it all over social media, but I completely forgot this here blog. What can I say other than baby brain! For those of you that haven’t seen it, here is our announcement video :

According to the date that we were given at our early scan I am nine weeks pregnant today. The date may well change at our twelve week scan but for now, I’m running with it.

My symptoms started very early on and seem to be getting stronger and stronger. I’m trying to keep positive by telling myself that strong symptoms means a strong baby, but it is so draining and I can’t help but worry that I will be ill all the way through, as I was when pregnant with Aria.

My last period was due on 25 December (Christmas day!). I felt nauseous for two weeks and so decided to take a pregnancy test on 23 December, I didn’t think there was any chance of it being positive as, even though we were trying, both Spencer and Aria were suffering with a sickness bug around my ovulation period, and we only managed to try once in December! We had a faint positive test on the morning of 23 December, which we confirmed on Christmas Eve with a Clearblue Digital test.

On Christmas morning Aria facetimed both sets of grandparents, when they asked the inevitable “what did Santa get you for Christmas?” she replied with “a baba in mummy’s tummy.”

The nausea subsided for a week or two, but the sickness started around the first week of January. The thought of eating made me sick, going hungry made me sick. I’ve now realised that food is definitely my friend. I’ve been sick at least once every morning without fail since the sickness started. I’m usually sick as soon as I wake up and then again when I brush my teeth. On particularly bad days I’m sick again several times throughout the day. I’m struggling to get Aria to playschool on time and have started skipping brushing my teeth until I get home from dropping her off, otherwise I’m spending at least thirty minutes of the morning being sick and I just don’t have the time.

I seem to be suffering from reflux, which was the exact same problem when pregnant with Aria. I constantly feel like I have a ball of phlegm in my throat and clearing my throat makes me ill. I also feel like my food gets stuck in my throat quite often. The sickness has come with a realisation that I really need to work on strengthening my pelvic floor!

I can’t be entirely accurate on my weight as the last time I weighed was in November, I’m guessing I probably put a little bit of weight on after that as that was the last time I went to Slimming World. I am currently one pound lighter than I was then, though I am sure it is probably more like half a stone by the time I take into account the Christmas weight gain.

Other symptoms included lightheadedness in the very early days, which is also when I was very hormonal and grumpy!

My hips, back and feet are all really sore and achey, I think the sore feet is due to leaning over the toilet in awkward positions to be sick, and I guess the rest is just general pregnancy aches and pains.

I’ve been extremely exhausted and forgetful. I’m struggling to go about the day to day jobs in the house, I’m struggling to meet work deadlines, I’m in bed by around 8pm most evenings and very often napping during the day. Most of the household tasks are left to Spencer and I’m feeling pretty useless. I’ve already decided that this is definitely our last baby, if we want any more we will have to adopt!

I’m starting to show already, I’m assuming that its mostly bloating, but I am definitely looking bumpy!

With regard to cravings I don’t think I’m really craving anything yet, although I am enjoying ready salted Walkers, Haribo (I never eat sweets usually!), mint aeros, Ribena and carbs. I’ve also bought a Slush Puppy machine as slushes make me feel a lot better.

The First One Thousand Days – The Importance of Protein in Breast Milk

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The first one thousand days are also the hardest days, the days when it is near enough impossible to think about getting through until the end of the day, let alone worry about health and nutrition. Thankfully these clever bodies of ours do all the hard work for us.

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Understanding the Feelings that Come with Donor Egg Usage
Author Bio : Heidi Hayes is the CEO of Donor Egg Bank USA. She has more than 20 years of healthcare experience and has worked extensively in the field of reproductive endocrinology. Having been unsuccessful at traditional IUI and IVF treatments, Heidi personally understands the struggles of infertility. After many years of trying to conceive, she ultimately built her family through adoption and donor egg treatment. She always believed that if she didn’t give up, her ultimate goal of becoming a parent would someday become a reality.

Heidi Hayes is the CEO of Donor Egg Bank USA. She has more than 20 years of healthcare experience and has worked extensively in the field of reproductive endocrinology. She is sharing her experiences in this guest post entitled understanding the feelings that come with donor egg usage

Infertility is more common than you think. It sometimes a hush-hush topic or considered taboo, which is why many people keep their fertility journals private and do not share a whole lot about their feelings, thoughts and emotions. But, the truth is that you probably know quite a few people dealing with the sense of hopelessness that infertility can cause.

Fortunately, there are many options for couples dealing with family building challenges. There is no cookie cutter way to handle infertility. Some couples may choose other means to start a family, or simply decide to find other goals in life. There is no right or wrong way to deal with the situation and each journey is unique and special. Finding an egg donor is a choice that some couples make, and it can be a wonderful experience.

I started this company in hopes of creating a safe place for people to come with their concerns, questions and ideas. It is not a place where we are going to tell you what to do. It is a place where you tell us what you want, and we do everything in our power to make it happen. The control is in your hands.

The Pain of Infertility

When you begin trying to get pregnant and month after month you aren’t successful, it can be surprising and frustrating. Initially you think it just may take more time. Then over time you realize that you may not be able to get pregnant on your own. When this happens, it is natural to feel angry, depressed and anxious. Your vision for your future has been altered. You will have to come to terms with your new reality, but that will take time. Give yourself some time to work through it and don’t be too hard on yourself.

Infertility can be painful for couples. It can be especially hard on the parent who feels that they are “to blame.” If you are looking for donor eggs, then you have probably determined that the issue is with your eggs. But you are not to blame for anything. You are not in any way at fault. You are not damaged. You are still worthy of being a mother. You have not failed as a wife.

You may even feel concerned that your husband will leave you, or that extended family is judging you. The stress of infertility can make you imagine such worst-case scenarios. However, if anyone ever makes you feel like you are faulty or not good enough because you haven’t produced a baby, just know that they do not understand the way that infertility works and its many causes.

Coping with the Disappointment of Not Using Your Own Eggs

It can be a terrible feeling to have to come to terms with the fact that your eggs are not an option when it comes to building your family. Many women dream of being pregnant, carrying a baby, and bringing that baby home to a loving family. We rarely consider the possibility that our eggs will not be viable for whatever reason. But when a woman is confronted with this reality, it is natural and normal to feel a sense of grief.

You may feel sad that you will not share the genetic connection that you have always dreamed of, but children come to families in a multitude of ways. Yours will just come to you in a slightly different manner than you had imagined. Rest assured, your baby will be your pride and joy – even if he or she doesn’t look just like you.

Life with Children

The most important thing that you will have to prepare for is actually raising your baby.However this beautiful gift comes to you, your life will be changed forever. Your child, or children, will give you renewed sense of purpose and hope.

My family was built on a strong foundation of love and mutual respect, but not on genetics. We have become parents through adoption as well as donor egg IVF and our children are every bit as much mine as they ever would have been if I had been able to get pregnant “the natural way.” I also enjoy that my twins that were conceived with donor eggs have a genetic connection to my husband and that I was able to carry the pregnancy.

I am so happy to be a part of Donor Egg Bank, USA because it helps people to achieve their dreams and overcome an obstacle that may seem overwhelming or insurmountable. I am inspired daily by the stories of clients and friends. They never gave up on their dreams of a family, and neither should you. There are options out there. You may also be shocked to find out how many people you know who have dealt with this issue. Be open and honest with a few friends and you will likely be flooded with stories of family members, friends, neighbours and colleagues who face the infertility struggle. You are not alone.


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Guest Post : I Ate My Placenta & I Would Do It Again

Did you eat your placenta following childbirth? Is it something that you would consider doing? If so, you will most probably really enjoy today’s guest post from Louise. 28 year old Louise has been single since pregnancy due to an abusive relationship. Louise had her placenta encapsulated and made into smoothies, carry on reading to find out why and how.

I ate my placenta and i would do it again - blog post about eating placenta in the form of tablets

I understand that you ate your placenta following childbirth, what was it that made you want to do this?

Initially, I had heard that eating your placenta could combat or prevent PND. This really interested me as I had had depression pre pregnancy and I was also going through a very tough time personally, was a single mother and wondered how I would cope with the lack of sleep, crazy hormones and various other things!

Did you feel that you experienced any of the benefits expected?

I didn’t get PND and felt positive and energised a lot of the time, in itself surprising as I was doing it all alone and was expressing then feeding every 3 hours so sleep was rare! Of course I was emotional at times but considering the situation I was in that is normal. My milk also came in quickly and there was a lot! And I genuinely felt happy!

You didn’t eat your placenta in the traditional way of frying it, how did you consume it?

I contacted a lady through the Placenta Network, who I had read about and liked the sound of. She came into hospital after the birth, collected my placenta and bought back a placenta shake/ smoothie within 24 hours and then a few days later the encapsulated tablets! I had already told the staff at the hospital what I wanted to do with my placenta, filled in a form confirming this and took in a new and clean large Tupperware box for it to be put in. The smoothie was gorgeous, you wouldn’t have known it had placenta in, it was just a delicious, healthy smoothie. The tablets I took 3 times a day for months. I also had a print of my placenta and the cord is dried into a heart.

encapsulated placenta tablets raw dried placenta capsules

Would you do it again?

I absolutely would, I loved doing it. I felt completely supported and my decisions were respected both by the lady who did it for me and the hospital. I felt in control of what was happening and don’t regret it at all. I believe doing this protected me from PND whilst I went through a very difficult time, not just as a new mum and the medical staff specifically told me that by doing this I avoided having to have a blood transfusion and I only needed 2 instead of 3 iron drips after a very traumatic labour and loosing over 4 pints of blood.

umbilical cord dried into a heart shape

Louise has recently set up a facebook group called the Mumma Bears Hub – A group for all Mumma’s to come and have a place for them to say what they want, get advice/ information they need and be YOU. Be the wonderful woman you are, without being judged or abused. ***Respect. Support. Empower.*** Pro choice! You can join The Mumma Bears Hub here, like Louise’s business page here and follow Louise on Twitter here
Thank you Louise for allowing me to share your fascinating story with my readers.

Has Louise’s story changed your view on whether or not you would eat your placenta? I’ll admit it has made me think twice.

Pregnancy & Childbirth One Year On – The Symptoms That Didn’t Go Away

I was naive when I was pregnant, I assumed that I would give birth and ‘boom’ I would return back to normal, all of those horrible pregnancy symptoms would disappear overnight. It turns out that I was wrong, very wrong, over one year on I still have some of the symptoms.

pregnancy symptoms that don't just disappear overnight and are still present one year on

As expected, my belly is still very much a jelly belly, I’ve always had a large belly so am actually quite grateful that I now have an excuse for my larger than average belly.

What I didn’t expect was that symptoms such as carpal tunnel syndrome and the excruciating heartburn would still rear their ugly head up to six months post childbirth.

Even a year on I am still suffering with some symptoms, baby brain is still very much a thing, if anything it is worse now than it was when pregnant.

I still have to get up to go to the toilet most nights and have zero bladder control. Coughing, sneezing and being sick can be very dangerous. I wish I’d stuck to those pelvic floor exercises!

I often wake up in the morning with hot sweats, these started the day after childbirth and thirteen months later are still a thing, though this could also be due to my current medication.

Another thing, my first smear after childbirth didn’t hurt any where near as much as I remembered, read into that what you will…

Curious as to how long it took other mother’s to get over their pregnancy symptoms (if you ever do get over them!) I asked a few other bloggers what symptoms hung around for them, I was quite surprised as to how many people are still suffering.

Katy – Hair loss, I’m still shedding from five years ago! I have hair growth about 3 inches long near my temples and it sticks out if I don’t grip it- drives me nuts!!

Emma – Bladder control, scar pain from c-section, sleeplessness, weight gain hahaha and an unhealthy obsession with prams!

Alex – Baby brain for sure! There are times when I just can’t remember something or think of a word to say – totally blank!

Lisa – The shooting pain through the bum! It calmed down but never went away – just lurked in the background and has come back worse again now I’m pregnant again! I haven’t been able to sit or lay on a floor since pregnancy 4 years ago!

Emily – Back pain! Two pregnancies and an epidural with my first, has absolutely ruined my back.

Kate – The numbness from my caesarean scar. 10 years since my first and I still have no sensation in that area, I also got awful weak teeth during pregnancy, and was in and out of the dentist with chips and breaks. The weakness has stayed post birth too.

Hannah – Sciatica- started in my pregnancy with B, carried on after having her, then flared up badly in H’s pregnancy and I still have it now when I swap slings, or do lots of heavy lifting!

Susanne – I had to get glasses when I was pregnant with number 3 and the optician said it was inflammation and swelling in the eye’s blood vessels caused by pregnancy.

Kate – Sharon would agree with me when I say ‘hormones’. I still get rather emotional over the smallest of things.

Amy – SPD – 2 years on and I’m still suffering! And I’m pregnant again so it’s so much worse.

Pamela – My episiotomy scar still tears almost 5 yrs on I’ve had a repair and a plastic surgeon said there’s nothing better they can do. It’s like walking around with a constant paper cut….there! That plus my section scar…I’m just a hoot to be around.

Edith – Tiredness. I’ve had 3 that don’t sleep so just as one started usually around 3 I had another one.

Hannah – Carpal tunnel!! Fluffy baby hair round my hairline. And c section scars of course.

Laura – Great big massive nipples forever…….. but that’s more from breastfeeding. I got tendonitis that didn’t go away. The c-section pouch (slash big fat chocolate cake belly).
Lucy – I swear that I lost half my vocabulary when I gave birth to Little Miss H. I also now have spider veins on my legs, terrible periods and skin colour changes around my eyes (it looks like I’ve applied fake tan really badly in spots around my eyes). Oh and a belly button that was (until my current pregnancy) trying to disappear out of my back.

Petra – I still had a tiny bit of milk coming for almost a year after stopping breastfeeding when my daughter was 1.

Heledd – Sleep deprivation. Peeing when you sneeze.

Did you have any pregnancy symptoms that just wouldn’t go away? If so, what were they?