Am I Wrong to Not Feel Emotional on My Child’s First Day of Nursery?

5th September 2017
Am I wrong to not feel emotional on my child's first day of nursery?

For the past few days my facebook feed has been awash with emotional mothers, mothers who are sad that their child is starting school, mothers who cried after dropping them off for the first time.

Aria is 2 & 1/2 and is due to start nursery any day now, and I cannot wait. The only emotion I am feeling is joy, and also relief. Relief for me and relief for her.

Am I Wrong to Not Feel Emotional on My Child’s First Day of Nursery?

I am relieved for me because I am struggling. I have 2 days a week with childcare in the form of grandparents and it just isn’t enough. I’m drowning in work and my house is a shit tip.

Am I wrong to not feel emotional on my child's first day of nursery?

I am relieved for her because it will be so good for her. Before we moved she went to private nursery one day a week and, despite tears at drop off time, or at least when I dropped her off, she really did enjoy it. She always came out of nursery happy; tired but happy.

We have no structure in our daily routine and, as much as we love our lazy mornings, it will be good for us to to get into a good routine.

She rarely spends time with children her own age. Don’t get me wrong, she loves spending time with her niece and nephew but they are six and three years older than her, it will be so good for her to play with children her own age.

She is starting a little earlier than normal, in Wales they start 2 & 1/2 hours Monday – Friday the first term after their 3rd birthday, but the area that we are now living in receives extra funding and as a result the children here start the first term after their 2nd birthday.

If there are tears at drop off of course I’ll be upset, I’m not a complete monster, but I also know that the tears will pass, give her five minutes and she will be happy exploring her new surroundings and making new friends. I know that she won’t always cry when I drop her off, that she will eventually look forward to going.

Maybe it’s because she isn’t starting ‘proper’ school, maybe it’s because it’s not a full day, or maybe I’m just heartless. All I know is that when we go to register her tomorrow I will be skipping to the nursery!

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  • Reply Stephanie 5th September 2017 at 10:39 am

    My little boy is starting school today and I’m excited for him. He has been in nursery since he was 9 months old except when I was on maternity leave with his brother. At the minute my boys are fighting constantly due to spending too much time together since pre school finished. Nursery and school are good for them they learn so much and gain independence. Hope Aria settles in well x

  • Reply Tracey Williams 8th September 2017 at 5:34 pm

    I always get more emotional when it comes to my kids finishing somewhere than starting. I was fine with them starting nursery, first day at primary and also high school. But if you had talked to me 6 weeks ago when my youngest left primary, I was a complete mess. Lots of luck to Aria as I am sure she will be absolutely fine x

  • Reply Lucy Melissa Smith 15th September 2017 at 6:24 pm

    Oh lovely, I think you’re just realistic and know that it’s good for her (because you know her best) and that she’ll be OK in the end! How awesome that you’re getting the hours early? Lily won’t start until April if we put her in, it seems like ages away! xx

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