Parenting Pregnancy

I’m Jealous of My Pregnant Friends

8th April 2019

I always wanted two girls, and now I have two girls. My family is done. So why am I jealous of my pregnant friends?

I scroll through facebook and see a pregnancy announcement, I congratulate my friend, but I can’t help that feeling. I start thinking about how I’m never going to experience the joy of a positive pregnancy test again, of seeing the baby on the scan for the first time, feeling that first kick (or was it wind?), meeting my baby for the very first time, bonding with the baby and proudly ticking off those milestones. I’m jealous of my pregnant friends.

I have awful pregnancies, I get so sick and even suffered with gestational diabetes last time around. I’m relieved I don’t have to go through that again. I’m sure it would be even harder if I was to do it again as I would be that much older. So why am I jealous of my pregnant friends?

A third baby would be a financial nightmare. We would need a bigger house, a bigger car. We tend to tackle one child each in the mornings, at bedtimes and even on days out, we couldn’t cope with three. So why am I jealous of my pregnant friends?

I’m really struggling to adjust to two, so three would be a nightmare, wouldn’t it? It would be constant, non stop, but it would also be SO much fun. I’m jealous of my pregnant friends.

My family is complete, so why am I jealous of my pregnant friends.

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5 Comments

  • Reply Claire Evans 8th April 2019 at 2:44 pm

    I can relate to this so much. I don’t want any more children for financial, practical and health reasons. But it’s still so sad to think that I’ll never do that again. ? It’s like that meme that goes something like ‘Everyone else is getting engaged or having a baby and I’m just watching tele!’ ? But then I have done all already but it doesn’t feel the same! I think I’ve got some unresolved issues about each pregnancy and birth too so I’d like to keep going until it goes as planned but that’s not going to happen is it? ? hugs xxx

    • Reply Stephanie 8th April 2019 at 5:18 pm

      As a mummy of three I can say life with two was much easier. I always say if anyone asks me I always say you shouldn’t have more kids than hands. Even though I know my family is complete I still would like another just for the first moments I don’t think it ever goes away

  • Reply Samantha 8th April 2019 at 2:53 pm

    Same here, and Alfie is only 4 weeks old.
    I think as a women, its built in us to nurture.
    Im officially done with 3. But will have the yerning for more im sure. Hubby is booked in to be done, to make sure i can’t change my mind

  • Reply Lianne freeman 17th April 2019 at 8:15 am

    AHH I feel this way sometimes too , James had a vescetomy when Frankie was 5 months old so I knew she was my last – does make me sad sometimes

  • Reply fabmomma 3rd May 2019 at 10:11 am

    Gosh! I feel this way too sometimes but mine is more of a guilty feeling – I am a fertile woman who the ability to have babies but have chosen not to have anymore cos of GD, impact on finances and my career. I’m also a big mess when I stay home with the kids without work deadlines and an office to go to ??‍♀️

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