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I’m lucky enough to have had two lovely births.
Whilst unexpected and very dramatic, Aria’s unplanned homebirth was absolute perfection. I look back at that crazy day and can’t help but smile. A lot. I have fond memories of sitting in my living room with a new baby happily chatting away with the first respondent and the community midwives; after just birthing on my living room floor.
Gestational diabetes during my pregnancy with Carrie meant that a Hospital birth was the ideal situation, just in case. It didn’t go quite to plan as my agreed birth on the midwife led unit fell through due to short staffing, but we still had a perfect birth, despite asking them to cut her out of me after being informed that I wasn’t fully dilated. I had fast labours with both, and I have absolutely no idea how I would cope with a longer labour!
Shortly after birth the excitement wears off and the visitors stop visiting. Then what? You’re in this scary new world which is actually quite lonely, despite having a new companion 24/7.
After welcoming Aria into the world, we lived in a blissful little bubble for a while, with no idea if it was night or day, the days just merged into one. We enjoyed the cwtches, we got to know our new family and adapt to our new roles.
Things were different with Carrie, she was born at the end of August meaning that we bought her home and then boom, back to school for Aria after six weeks off. I couldn’t help but feel guilty about this, wondering if she would think that now that the baby was here I was shipping her off. Of course, this absolutely was not the case.
We were lucky as Aria didn’t seem to experience a great deal of jealousy. She had her moments, such as on the first night home when she asked why everyone was sleeping in our bedroom and she was on her own, so, of course all four of us ended up sleeping in our bedroom. Overall, she adapted well, I’m not sure if this is because she is generally chilled out, or if the three (almost four) year age gap meant that she was more understanding.
A common struggle nowadays is the social media pressure, which is something that myself, Alison Perry & Lorna Hayward discussed whilst chatting all things birth & beyond in the latest episode of Nappy Natters, and is the very reason that I do what I do, share my very honest real life parenting moments.
Nappy Natters is a new podcast bought to you by ASDA Little Angels which addresses the thrills & spills of parenting. You can catch me in episodes two & three. Episodes one & two are available to download from iTunes and Acast, and the third episode will be released on 17 May – I hope that you have as much fun listening as we did recording it!